It was an interesting weekend. I had a friend visit on Friday and stay until this morning. She likes her wine, but she’s a normie. (Still amazing to me how people can have a few glasses of wine and not want to stop at the store on the way home for more.)
We went to dinner on Friday night, and she ordered a cucumber martini. She was gracious enough to ask first if it was okay with me. She asked every time which was VERY thoughtful. After her martini (which was really small), she order a glass of wine. Since it was happy hour, I ordered one as well so she could have the happy hour price for a second glass. I smelled the wine. Smelled JUST LIKE WINE! How bizarre, right? lol It didn’t arouse any desires to drink. Thank God. We had our tapas for dinner and enjoyed them all. I drove us home.
Saturday, we played tourist and came home about 5:00pm. Upon driving back home, I stopped at the store to get something to drink – Arnold Palmer’s/Peach Snapple tea. Next door was the liquor store so she went over and got a bottle. We were having steak for dinner, and she asked if it was okay if she had some wine. I was a little nervous but told her sure. She had about 1/2 of the bottle (2 glasses) that night.
Sunday we did the tourist thing again in another town and had a great time at the farmers markets and looking at all the art galleries in the town center. Took forever getting home because of traffic, but we finally made it back at 7:00. I grilled some salmon for dinner, and she finished off her bottle.
So, the reason I’m telling the story of my weekend? That even though the person around you is drinking a beverage you wish you could also enjoy, it is doable. I ‘noticed’ it when she would take her first sip and think “yum”, but then after that I didn’t even pay attention. Yes, I was jealous that she could drink a couple glasses of wine and “walk away” unscathed, but it was all good.
I just passed my 9 month mark and each day is still a huge victory over alcohol for me. Considering I drank alcohol for over 40 years, I should expect it to take a while to not become ‘the norm’ any longer. Each hour, day, week and month that passes makes it that much easier.
I hope those of you reading this, who are still in the early stages, take note that it can be done and it does get easier. Just don’t expect it to happen over night or over week or over month. It’s a whole new learning curve 🙂 And it takes time.